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I say to myself “Come off it! You'd never manage it. A submissive wife simply does not tell her husband that she wishes she could turn him into a rat and set the cat on him.”
Submissive doesn't equal meek & subservient, though. I may submit to B, but it's something he often has to take from me, and if we're in the middle of a row, he really has to work for it. I am a strong, fiery tempered woman, used to getting my own way outside of home, and in order for me to submit to anyone I need to know they are stronger than me, and not afraid to show it.
Oh, how nice it would be to feel serene and submissive and happy all the time. But with me the submissiveness never seems to last; it wears off, and then I'm my usual self again. I am a shrew who can be tamed, but only on a temporary basis. A sort of Timeshare Taming.
Ahh - but if we were all submissive all the time, then there'd be no need for any of us to be taken in hand, however that manifests in any particular relationship.
"There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so" Hamlet, somewhere.
by ConfusedOfHomeCounties? on 2004 Jun 25 - 19:09 | reply to this comment
Yes. No. Please. Stop. Maybe.
Ever since we first started our Taken In Hand relationship, I've had love-hate feelings about it.